We’re often entreated to ‘Look on the bright side’ and ‘Think positively’ when life is treating us poorly. ‘It could be worse…’ we're told. Well yes it could, but that doesn’t make me feel better.
Humans are wired to focus on difficulties and challenges. We see the bad before we see the good. We give more weight to negative experiences than to positive ones. In fact some researchers suggest that we pay up to three times more attention to our ‘negative’ feelings than we do to our positive emotions.
Worry will not change the outcome. Yet we do it anyway. It makes no sense.
This is your crazy brain at work.
Worry is a natural response to thinking about the future and anticipating events. Some of us are wired up to do it more than others. When we worry excessively and uncontrollably we're heading into anxiety territory and that needs professional support.
Every problem has a solution. I firmly believe that. But not every solution is easy to find. Here's a productivity tip I learned last week that helps us to uncover the answers to some of life's peskier productivity questions. Questions close to my heart like, 'Why can't I get the kids to school on time? Ever?'
I have been working online for 22 years. When I started Mark Zuckerberg was 12 years old. There was no social media. There were no smart phones. ‘Email’ as we know it now was pretty new. (How old do I feel?)
I’ve watched the Internet become our information go-to. I work online, I socialise online and I learn online. I tell my kids that we’ll ‘Google’ answers to vexing questions. They can’t imagine a life without YouTube and wonder why wifi stops at our front gate.
Want to know where to get the best advice on well being, happiness, health, parenting, and relationships? I might be biased (okay I am) but psychology is where it's at when it comes to real, workable tips and strategies for making life better.
You see psychologists are experts in human behaviour. That's what we do.
It's tempting at the beginning of a new year and a blank page to plot our big, big goals. We imagine the enormous things we will achieve. We get excited and set forth. Each day brings new activities, a fresh mindset and a determination to achieve.
We're very busy doing things differently for a week or two, maybe three. By February life has taken over. The New Year plans have been forgotten....
We each mark a place on a thousand spectra of human difference; our looks, our interests, our abilities, our interests, our values, our biases, our likes, our tastes, our gender, our sexuality. No two of us are alike and that’s a wonderful, fascinating thing.