Information alert for all parents. Book recommendations!
We are very fortunate to have a couple of leading lights in child psychology based here in Ballarat. Chelle and Jess from Blossomtree Psychology are passionate about helping families to function at their very best. They are always keen to share their knowledge and the resources that they use with families to make the parenting journey easier for all of us.
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They've given me a list of their top five parenting books filled with great tips to better understand how kids see the world and how we as as parents can work with them to ensure that they are happy and emotionally healthy, while keeping our sanity intact.
And they are....
The Whole Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive by Drs. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson (eBook version)
There are a few books by Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson on this list, for very good reason. Dan is a neuropsychiatrist and Tina is a parenting expert. Together they write practical, easy to read books that cover the science of what's going on in your child's brain and give you tips and strategies for easier parenting.
The Whole Brain Child demystifies meltdowns by explaining how a child's brain is wired up and how it differs from our own adult brains. It then applies these discoveries to everyday parenting and give you strategies for making use of the meltdowns.
Are you struggling to work out how to best develop the rules and implement discipline with the kids? This book gives you strategies for identifying your discipline philosophy, facts on brain development and what kind of discipline is most appropriate for kids of different ages and how to calmly connect with and show your kids love —no matter how extreme the behavior—while still setting clear and consistent rules about behaviour.
How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen and Listen So Your Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.
Do you find yourself yelling or pleading with the kids to get ready for school, tidy their rooms or help you out with things at home? Are you sick of it? This book is another parenting bible written in a fun and practical style and designed to help you figure out:
- How to listen to and understand your child's worries and concerns
- How to get the family cooperating without nagging
- How to find alternatives to punishment, and
- How to help your child develop a positive self image.
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman and Joan Claire.
This book has been around for almost 20 years but it's still the go-to tome for parents wanting to understand their kids' emotions and to help them to deal with the ups and downs that life brings, whether it's a toddler tantrum or teenaged angst.
Psychologist and researcher John Gottman is well known for his research into relationships and marriage but he has also worked extensively in emotion-focused coaching with parents and children. This book equips you with a five-step emotion coaching process that teaches you how to be aware of your children's emotions, label emotions in words that kids will understand and work with them to deal with upsetting situations in a helpful way.
Strictly Parenting: Everything you need to know about raising school-aged kids by Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg
This one is a ring in as it's one of my recommendations. Not everyone likes Michael Carr-Gregg's delivery style. He can come across as a bit, well, confronting but I think this is one of his strengths. This book is written for parents of kids aged 6 to 12.
Carr-Gregg reckons that we've gone a bit soft as parents and we're not doing our kids any favours by letting them rule the roost. This book provides practical, evidence-based strategies for parenting in a firm but fair manner so that kids learn to be more self reliant (setting them up for adulthood) and ensuring that mums and dads are guides and mentors and not servants and slaves. (eBook version)
Have you read any of these books? Do you recommend them? Or are there other parenting books that you think are great? Let me know so that I can help to spread the word.