In a recent episode of The Potential Psychology Podcast I interviewed relationship and dating psychologist Melanie Schilling. You might know her as an expert on Married at First Sight Australia. What you might not know is that when Mel's not on the telly she works with professional women to develop their confidence and self-belief, allowing them to flourish in their life and career.
I figured we can all benefit from a confidence-boost from time to time so I asked Mel for her tips on increasing self belief.
“The people who really excel often have an amazing growth mindset. They are incredibly able to deal with the discomfort and pain of failure; to look at it as a learning opportunity and to see how they can grow and thrive and learn from that.”
As a psychologist I was keen to get to the bottom of this and find out what causes procrastination and how we can overcome it. It seems so all-pervasive and troubling to so many people and yet the common wisdom of, ‘Set a goal and a deadline,’ or ‘Just get started’ doesn’t seem to cut it as advice for most of us. So I did some digging into the psychological research and what I learnt utterly changed my perspective on this human foible...What we call procrastination is often not procrastination at all.
Do you ever feel like you're busy for the sake of being busy? I know I do. Here's how I finally overcame that. In this article, I talk about what happens when you're just filled to the brim with ideas but get so overwhelming that you never get around to starting and how I overcame that to finally get started on writing my book.